Excuses, Excuses, Excuses.........

Hello, ILOVEMYMESS Readers,

The New Year has begun and is flying by in a Flash unless you are 6 years old where time appears to be standing still.  By this time of the year many have already started to lose their RESOLVE for some of their New Years Resolutions.   By March most people will have given up altogether.  Maybe my independent opinion, personal study of this behavior pattern is incorrect.  However why don't you do a poll in your circle of physical or social network friends to see if this is anywhere close to being true.

It is not that people don't love the idea of CHANGING FOR THEIR OWN GOOD.  It is however in their best short term interest easier to submit to old Habits if they haven't giving themselves a compelling reason to CHANGE!!

There are many reasons that can be given for not accomplishing a Goal.  The Problem is any reason, or should I say (EXCUSE)  will do.  

The Dictionary defines excuse as an apology in an attempt to remove blame from,  then another definition refers to the active forgiveness of someone who has done something in which normally They would be taking the blame or responsibility for something they should have or should not have done. It seems to me that progressively the  definition expands to an all out release, forgiveness, and pardon for a behavior or action.  Some of the relevant synonyms uses are Self-Justification, Alibi, Condone, Pardon, and Forgive.

Believe me when I say there will always be an excuse available for anything You Don't Get Done!!  

The easier it becomes for you to find one on a regular basis should alert you to the fact that you have not made a true invested commitment.  If you desire Change you can believe in for YOURSELF!!  Stop Making Excuses!!


You Might Just Need More Training or Help to Do What You Say You Want to DO!!  Ask For The Help!!




Until Next Time....


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Clarence is a Mess

What will you do with your MESS

Hello ILOVEMYMESS readers,

I am honored and bless you took the time to come by and check me out. it is my Goal to give you something of value for coming here to check out what I have to say!  In 2010 I want to be known for having added meaningful value to the life of 100 close and personal family, close by friends, and internet buddies.  This is one of my attempts at that effort.

I hope you try to do the same. The other day I was thinking to myself...

Self You Are A Mess...What does ILOVEMYMESS really mean, what is it trying to accomplish.

The concept is simple in my head but I don't know if I adequately translate what is in my head, and on my heart to an internet reader.

Well Here Goes...

Your Life is a Mess,  but it is Your Mess!! Love your mess, take ownership of it, take responsibility for it, Change it if you will but don't blame others You Are A Free Will Individual With The POWER Of Choice!

So look deep in the mirror, at your body features, in your minds eye, at the environment you have chosen, at your job, at your money, at the special people in your life, at your challenges.  It is yours! If you look and you don't like what you see.....I GIVE YOU PERMISSION TO CHANGE IT!!

YOU HAD THE POWER ALL ALONG!!

Hope to see you Soon
Seadog

Happy New Year ILOVEMYMESS Readers,

     This is a stressful time of the year!! Historically

Christmas and the New Year is personally the

hardest part of the year.  I feel more depressed

during this time of year than any other.  I believe

in God and Jesus Christ his Son so there is

absolutely no chance of me committing suicide due to

my sadness or stress. No worries, comments,

concerns need be expressed on my behalf as a result

of this blog.  That being said the statistics are

clear that December and January in America are

Historically the greateast month for suicides.

This is a very sobering and disheartening fact of

the holiday season.  Christmas is supposed to be

about the gift of God's Son to man. I am trying not

to put on my preacher hat, But I can't help but to

express that God's Gift was Graceous,Compassionate,

Thoughtful, Helpful, Merciful, Compelling and

Caring. Obviously there are many more adverbs that

could be used but at least you may get a picture of

my point.

     As we consider the act of giving I feel the need to

share two thoughts on giving for the new year.

(this may be long I hope you stay with me all the

way through)

Thought 1..
My wife is an outstanding cook!! I consider it a

privilege to sit in front of a meal she has

prepared!!  It is a great gift she has that she

shares with me almost daily. Sometime 2 or 3 times

a day. there may be some men who declare that is

their wife's job to cook and clean.  I do not hold

her accountable to cook for me as an oblagation.

My mom and dad taught me showed me how to cook for

myself and I have no problem feeding myself when I

am hungry.  As a matter of fact, I do not want her

to cook for me if she is angry.  The point I want

to emphasize is my personal preference is that if

you give me a gift it should be given freely and

cheerfully.  Giving Grudgingly is not noteworthy,

pleasing, acceptable, or in many ways neither is it

beneficial to the one who claims to give it.

Love should always be unconditional but your gift

is not.  It must be limited to the resources you

control and are willing to release.

Thought 2..
Just recently a news report about 2 certified EMT's

surfaced on the wire.  The way I understood it was

they were on a break from their Job when a pregnant

women began having complications in the vicinity of

where they were taking their break and requested

their help and they refused her.

Now obviously I wasn't there and I have trouble

trusting most media reports due to their necessary

limitations. However I became somewhat furious upon

hearing the allegations.  This woman who was known

to the EMT's, was reported to have served them on

several occasions earlier. This women in her time

of need was refused service.  This women was told

she needed to call 911 for more EMT's to come who

were not on break.  This women and her child died!

There are no guarantees this woman and child would

have survived even if the initial EMT's had helped

her. Life is a gift and their is no guarantee of

your next year, next week, next day, or next

breath.

My point then is there are times when due to your

training, proximity, and need of the moment when

you should feel the obligation to render service.

Everyman will have to answer that for themselves

just as these EMT's did but the Golden Rule is a

very Good measuring stick!!  Maybe it should be

called the Golden Ruler!!

     In 2010 make a decision to Love as hard and as much

as you can or as much as the recipient will allow

themselves to receive!!

Stay Blessed...